ok, well it seems the new patchs to Ether are good/decent, it's back to it's 40k+ parsing
(ran a group with it, group dps was awful because I was always top of the parse by a good amount of like 100k+ on both of these but anyway)
Like I said, group dps was awful cause I was always the top by an easy 100k, and 2 people (tank being one) died on the boss of Venekor cause he didn't know how to stoneskin/DP himself on red text but it seems they fixed Ether Balance for groups/raids anyway