Glenedhel, You shouldn't have to click the in-game manual update. Your character is reexported to the Data Feeds API every time you camp or zone. Not sure why clicking "Refresh this Data" on EQ2Mission isn't working but I think that's something on their end not SOE's.
EQ2U updates every time you zone as long as the last update was at least 5 minutes ago (just to have some flood control in there). Sometimes we get strange data like 0 quests completed or reduced stats, but zoning again fixes it.
It's frustrating to hear that people want Leaderboards and aren't able to find a site that meets that need.