All of us who do not RP on a continuos basis do not ridicule those that do, when I joined EQ-2 I spent hours on these and other forums trying to decide on a server. AB has IMHO the best reputation among the various server communities I was able to find data on, why? RP communities are more mature, friendly etc.
When in game if I run across ANY RP player and they speak to me in that manner I respond in kind (to the best of my ability), our guild does not enforce RP but we encourage it, we have many RP folks among our ranks and include a special section in our forums for RP storylines etc. Although I understand your plight to a degree I think that most of us that chose AB and do not RP again chose this community because it is a "NICE" place to be while we are enjoying our in game experience as much as you are.
Fear not for you have attracted more mature respectful players than you have DEWDS!